Why you should be writing a To-Be list
To-do lists; the
all-so-familiar way to get things done. We have used them as far as we can
remember. Checklists have become the common practice when we need to get
ourselves to do stuff; be it calls we are supposed to make, errands we are to
run or work to accomplish. It is a good feeling, euphoria of some sorts, when
we get to check stuff off of our lists, we feel accomplished. It makes us feel
useful and productive. However, it does not help a little bit in making us who
we want to be or who we are.
Today, in a world where
competition is on the rise, doing more and accomplishing more has become the
order of the day. It’s like a professional sport really, with the ultimate
prize being checking the most things off our to-do lists. When we do not do
something on the list, we have failed greatly. We have fallen victim of the list, with every
new dawn, we already have a list of what to do, everything planned out; each
passing day, we are more overwhelmed by the checklists. We are enslaved by the
to-do list so much that we forget to live our life, and pursue our goal of
being what we want to be.
Bringing you the To-Be list
My name is Carina
Lawson, Founder & CEO of Ponderlily, and a proud mother of twins with a
full-time job; so you can imagine what kind of to do list I could be having.
From school-runs and institutional research to office work, I have the perfect
definition of a full day. And remember I have a life to live. But no, I do not
have a to-do list. So how do I cope with all that?
It all boils down to
what I want, and what I want is to be healthy. Being healthy does not
necessarily mean that I have to go to the gym X number of times a week or a certain length of time. To me, it is
more of the food choices I make, and the intentional movement I make throughout
my day. It is about taking care of myself so that I can take care of my loved
ones. That’s what healthy means to me. Today, it may mean that I need to eat
more iron-rich foods next month or it may mean I need to focus on getting more
vitamin D in winter months. To you, it may be something totally different.
This is what the To-be
list is all about. It is what you want to be, and what you need to do to be
what you want. The list is mindful of what you want to be rather than what you
need to do. There’s something powerful and incredibly empowering about saying,
I am, and I want to be. It creates your reality and keeps you accountable every
You need to love your
life once again, treasuring every moment. This way you don’t get to miss out on
life in an effort to accomplish a task. Instead, you live a fulfilling life
because you get to be who you want to be by finding space for meaning in what
you do. It helps you to make decisions that aren’t motivated by a desire to
‘tick a box’, but to find space for meaningful connection and that makes you
feel authentic and alive. Our lives are bigger than the things we do in a day,
so there is no way that our day should be measured by milestones and tasks.
How do we do it?
Getting started with and
practising your own to be list is very simple. All you need to do is first write
down your to be list. These are the things that you want to be in your life,
for instance, “be real” or “be healthy” or both, as long as it is what you want
to be. What does it mean to you?
Once the list is done
and you have understood what it means to you, put up your somewhere where you
can see it easily and from time to time. You can put this list in your wardrobe
door, refrigerator door or by your bathroom mirror.
Every time you want to
do something, ask yourself, “Is this what I want to be? Is it helping me be what
I want to be?” By so doing, you will find that your actions will align with how
you want to be. In the long run, you will end up being what you want to be, and
it will all be thanks to the little to be list on your wardrobe door.
So, ask yourself, “What
do I want to be?”